Learning from the Navdurgas

As the festive season sets in, there are ways to enrich ourselves by understanding the Navdurgas.

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As Navratri sets in, we begin with the festive stretch of the year.

Whether you are here for the devotion, the culture, or just the festivities, there is something for everyone.

Festivals are not just here for our enjoyment, but also our enrichment. They teach us important life-skills, approaches and enable us to live a fulfilling life.

So, without further ado, let us dive into how we can wield the festive spirit to the best of our advantage!

Understanding Differences in Approaches: Navratri has nine forms of the goddess (the ‘devi’), the ‘Navdurgas’ and each form represents not only a quality but an approach to life and the world. Every form is equally valid and no approach, no quality is of less importance. They are ultimately part of the universal shakti, the energy that runs the world according to the mythology.

Shailaputri represents stability, Brahmacharini represents ascetism, Chandraghanta beauty and peace, Kushmanda creation, Skandmata protection and motherhood, Katyayani courage and strength against evil, Kalaratri destruction of fears, Maha Gauri radiance and enlightenment, Siddhidhatri accomplishments and fulfilment.

Different situations require us to channelise the different approaches. Some days we need patience to approach a task. Some days, anger helps to get things done. Some days we need wisdom with our decisions and some days fearlessness. Some days we need to lead and nurture, and on other days, we need to be still.

Thinking about a task with the question of ‘how do I need to approach this particular situation?’ enables us to develop flexibility and context-specific decision-making.

Understanding your Own Strengths: Closely related to understanding how each goddess-form represents an approach to life, is an understanding of each one’s strength.

Each one of has a strength, a characteristic quality that we can wield like no one else.

The goddess-forms too have their own defining characteristics. The grounded nature and stability of Shailaputri is unparalleled. The anger of Kalaratri and the warrior-spirit of Katyayani are literal forces of nature. Maha Gauri’s calm energises us in an altogether different way. Do we try to find the energy of peace when we are looking for the intensity, or vice versa? No, right?

Similarly, each one of us has a strength that almost works as a gift for us. Instead of comparing ourselves to others, why not find out our strengths and channelise them to our advantage? One might be an excellent organiser, while someone else might be an excellent communicator. Another might be an excellent multitasker, while one might excel in deep focused work. Finding our strengths is the key to understanding how we can contribute to our own development as well as development of those around us, whether our loved ones, or the company we work for.

The goddess-forms ultimately are a part of the cosmic ‘shakti’, the energy. They are not really separate from each other- the approach takes the centre-stage based on what the situation requires. Similarly, we have everything within us- calm, strength, anger, agency, wisdom. It is tapping into what works for us the best that enables us to run things. Whether it is running the universe, a company or a team!

Why Working Smart is the Result of Working Hard

Before working smarter, we may need to work hard. Read on.

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Work smarter, not harder.

We all must be familiar with the above quote.

But there lies a paradox behind this which we often don’t understand.

Before we work smarter, we need to understand how something actually works, thoroughly. It is only then we will be able to understand that what is the smarter thing that we can do. We will have to engage with the task at hand. We will have to undergo multiple processes of trial and error. We might even have to fail, succeed, fail, succeed in cycles. It is then that we will understand what to do to work smarter.

In other words, to work smarter, we will have to work hard at it first.

Let us think about certain examples regarding this:

An artist will have to understand thoroughly how the colours blend with each other, the exact texture the canvas has that enables it to bring out the best in the colours. They will have to understand how perspective works, how life translates onto the canvas and so on.

In other words, they will have to work hard at their art first, and then once they have gained the mastery, they can start working smarter, and make use of techniques that work the best for them.

In a new job, you will first have to understand your work responsibilities thoroughly. For that, you will need to perhaps give an hour or two extra for your shift. You may have to do some double, triple checks initially before you learn how to figure something out in a single glance. You may have to make some mistakes before understanding how to do something without making those mistakes.

Any professional, in whatever field they are can’t become a smart worker before becoming a good worker first. They must experience learning, making mistakes and learning again.

Even AI needs to go through hoards of data, and course correct the self-learning to work smartly!

Not just in skill development. Think how:

To deal with a ‘difficult’ client smartly, you may have to work hard at understanding their previous records, go over multiple files. You may have to understand how the earlier meetings have gone, what has worked and what has not worked, how your other colleagues have dealt with them and so on. Only then you will be able to deal with them smartly.

Or how in order to conduct a smooth meeting, you must work hard on developing the agenda structure, so that when the meeting does come up, you can make smarter decisions about task management, the issues in focus, and delegation of objectives.

Working smarter isn’t simply about using shortcuts to achieve something. It is not about working less. It is not about avoiding work. Working smarter comes from working harder at first. To quote author Shane Parrish,

‘Smarter approaches aren’t universal shortcuts, they’re contextual insights uncovered through deep, sustained effort.’

To cut out unnecessary work, you need to understand what unnecessary work is. To develop a shortcut, one must first understand what is wrong with the longer route. Working smarter is a ‘smart’ blend of effort, experience, and hard work. Smart work is the eventual result, not an immediate substitute for hard work.

Comparison: Not Always a Thief of Joy

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Ayaan was at a mental space where a lot of us may have been from time to time:

He was having a good day at office. He had been happy with how a team meeting had gone by, and how the next set of objectives was looking like. That good day though was soon engulfed by a gloom. Why? In one of the objectives listed out, he was supposed to have his general manager get in touch with the general manager of one of the client companies he was working with. Who was the general manager of this client company? His own classmate!

He and this classmate had started out together. They had studied from the same university, and had the same certifications. So how was it that the classmate had reached a higher post before him? How was it that Ayaan reported to a general manager, and this classmate himself had become the general manager?

Ayaan was wracking his brain, deep into comparison: ‘How did this classmate’s career progressed more than mine even though we started out at the same time?’ ‘How much does he earn, I wonder?’ ‘Why did he get this opportunity, and how come I did not? How unlucky for me!’ ‘What if I had done that one other course instead of…?’ and so on.

All kinds hows and whys and what ifs were playing in Ayaan’s mind.

They say comparison is the thief of joy.

But is it so that we should never undertake any kind of comparison? After all, sometimes, it is the pressure to excel that motivates us to work harder. It is not a good idea to always be in a bubble, too comfortable in one’s life- that can lead to a lack of growth and wasted potential. Some comparison, some challenge, some striving for getting better is needed.

As James Clear, writer of the book ‘Atomic Habit’ says, comparison of the wrong things is the thief of joy. If one compares the wrong things, it can make one miserable. But if one compares the right things, and actually embraces the challenge to ‘win’ in the comparison at some point, it can lead to growth and improvement.

Ayaan is miserable because he compared the big things, the ‘wrong’ things like career trajectory, income, opportunities got and luck found.

What he can do instead is compare the little things. Little things such as: ‘What would be the classmate’s networking style that led him to this opportunity?’ ‘How does the classmate maintain his composure in such a high-pressure job?’ ‘What does his classmate do when it comes to task and time management?’ ‘What sort of strategies does he use which I can learn from?’

And so on.

Comparing the little things, the right things means comparing the concrete things. Things one can actually understand and learn from. Things which one can actually implement, and hone based on one’s own requirements and needs. Things which we can take under our control. Things which are not governed by luck and one’s life situation.

So yes, comparison of the wrong things is the thief of joy. Comparison of the right things can be fuel for our growth.

An ‘Unkind’ Way to be Kind

Negative criticism, telling someone they are rejected could sometimes be the kindest ‘unkind’ things we do for them.

Anisha has had a not-so-great interview. It was just one of those days. She knew it had not gone too well, and she just wanted to move past it. She wanted to now look into what could be done next. She was prepared for a ‘no’ and just wanted to hear it so that she could plan ahead.

Instead, what she received in her e-mail was something else. She was told that they find her promising and they will reach out to her as required.

She did not like this. Why? We will get to that reason soon.

Let us look at one more scenario before that.

Ashu had been assigned to mentor an intern named Vikas. Vikas was quite eager to learn- he often accompanied Ashu to major meetings, and networking events to get more ‘real world’ experience. The only issue with Vikas was that he sometimes said things out loud a bit too bluntly. Where someone could have been wrong, Vikas simply pointed it out. There was no constructive feedback, or no follow up questions that may give the other a chance to speak about their side of things. Ashu noticed this habit and wanted to point it out to Vikas but he held back fearing it might upset their dynamic. Or that Vikas might not take it in the right spirit.

Ashu’s approach was not the best if we look at it in the long run. Why?

The reason is the same as why Anisha also did not like that e-mail she received.

The reason being a lack of honesty and in turn, lack of clarity.

When Anisha is left with that uncertain e-mail, it gives her false hopes. Thoughts will come to her such as  ‘They are saying they find me promising so I guess I still have a chance…’ or ‘What if they call just when I take up another job?’

If they had simply said that although she is promising, her profile does not fit what they are looking for, Anisha would have got that message loud and clear. A negative message for sure, and a bit of a heartbreak even, but she would know that it’s time for her to move on and look elsewhere.

When Ashu refrained from telling Vikas that the latter needed to be wiser with his interactions, speak more gently, be a better listener, more curious and less judgmental, Vikas would have known what was the issue with his ways. He would have learned something about himself. After all, Ashu is the mentor, and it is okay if he points this out, in fact, he should point this out. On the other spectrum is of course, the bluntness that we saw in the intern’s ways of speaking, which needs correction.

The current culture tells us to be kinder to each other. We see tons of online content, telling how people might be struggling with their own silent battles and thus we should be more considerate. We are often scared to tell people something clearly, and hope that the issue will resolve itself.

This is seen in the form of professional ghosting, feedback sandwiched in jargon or feedback that is more about pointing out mistakes and less about giving clarity about the corrections needed.  Feedback that doesn’t tell anything concrete. Ultimately all these forms of communication with a lack of clarity lead to systems lacking transparency.

Clarity and honesty are gifts that could act like (somewhat) bitter medicines that ultimately lead to good. Saying no, giving negative but constructive feedback, calling the situation as it is- these all lead to clarity, redirection and ultimately growth. We can be kind with it. In fact, sometimes, that is the kindest thing we can do to.

Will you Choose the Forest or the Bouquet?

Some situations demand us we wait patiently for the forest to grow, while sometimes, we need the instant joy of the gift of a bouquet. Read on.

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Say, you have been given some seeds, and it is expected that you will grow a forest out of it.

How would you go about with it?

Perhaps you will first try to determine in which soil do the said seeds thrive the most. Their nutrient requirements, how much water and sun do they need- all of this will be followed consistently.

You will know that since a forest is expected, it will take a long while. You may see the signs of the forest over the months and years, through the growth and such, so it’s not that you will not get any rewards or signs of your care in regards to the seeds.

But since you are to grow a forest, which may take a generation or two to grow, you will create something that will enable the future generations to also care and nurture that forest. Perhaps a guide or a set of instructions that lets one know how to care for the shrubbery grown so far, so that it one days grows into a forest. And continues to grow, with or without you.

You, and the ones who care for it will get the rewards in the form of the flowers and the fruits and medicinal herbs and countless other use that a growing forest rewards us with. Insects, birds, small animals, the microorganisms in the roots and the soil underneath- everyone will benefit.

Growing a forest takes some planning, time and effort. But once the system is in place, it thrives on its own, and it benefits not just the person who planted the first seeds and cared for it, but even the ones who become a part of that system, directly (through its nurturing and care) or indirectly (the ecosystem around it).

Now compare this with buying a bouquet of flowers from the market.

It will require some money, a good aesthetic taste, knowledge about good florist shops in the city. Once the bouquet has been gifted to someone, they will be quite pleased by it. They will probably try to preserve it for a while by keeping it in a pot for some time. They may preserve it longer after following some tricks and tips. They may decide to preserve the flowers for ten more days, and may reach that goal. Eventually, those flowers will wither away. Unless, someone knows how to replant something. Unless, they follow a system.

The difference between the gift of a forest, and the gift of a bouquet is a system.

A quote by author James Clear comes to mind:

Goals are for people who care about winning once

Systems are for people who care about winning repeatedly.

We believe both mindsets are necessary, and it might be a wise thing to understand what the situation demands of us.

The choice is ours. Depending on the situation, we may decide if we want to invest in a bouquet or a forest. Short-term or long-term.

Winning over a client through some research about their preferences, their company- that is working towards a goal.

Brainstorming an idea with the team, and eventually concretizing the best idea- that is working towards a goal.

Starting a company of your own with its own operations and objectives, such that over time even people other than you, the founder may benefit through it, and be able to understand, follow and improve upon those operations and objectives- that is working up a system.

Starting a new department in a company, which takes into account the demands of the competition and that which also integrates the company’s objectives and culture- that is working up a system as well.

Goals are for the now, the immediate, the near future. They get completed. Objectives get accomplished.

Systems are built in the now and thrive through later; from the past, to the present, and for the future. They grow. They adapt. They live on.

Working on a goal, and working on a system, are both necessary. They both require different mindsets. Which of the two do we need to take up is a choice we can make. A choice that can make the kind of difference we want to make. Creating systems calls for choosing to create the forest; needing to do something now calls for the bouquet.